People say that in order to deal with a deployment you just
have to stay busy. Well you know what I say…sometimes you can be in the midst
of being “busy” and still be just as miserable as ever. I say you need to find
ways to deal with the circumstances and help make you into the best person you
can be. Because when we’re forced to deal with so much on our own and we’re missing
the best half of ourselves, we tend to not be the best version of ourselves.
I have found that I am not as good of a parent or as good of
a person without my husband home. There is some epic truth in the cheesy line
from the movies, “you make me a better man” but my spouse has made me a better
person. But without him here I struggle. So finding ways to help you deal with
the frustration, the anger, the loneliness, and worst of all, the fear, can
help you get through it.
For me dealing with a lot of the frustration is worked out through walking…a lot. I picture myself how I want to look and I imagine myself looking like that as I jump into his arms when he comes home. That helps motivate me as I push myself to keep walking. To help deal with the other mess of emotions I face, I write.
For me dealing with a lot of the frustration is worked out through walking…a lot. I picture myself how I want to look and I imagine myself looking like that as I jump into his arms when he comes home. That helps motivate me as I push myself to keep walking. To help deal with the other mess of emotions I face, I write.
I haven’t written in years.
I used to write a lot and I used
to write really well. But I pulled from my feelings of inadequacy and fear of
never finding someone who would love me. When I did find that amazing someone,
I had trouble writing. Negative feelings apparently make better muses for
writing. So find things that you enjoy that can help you deal with this
deployment. Cause sometimes that’s all you can do, you can’t be happy or
positive about it, all you can do is just deal.
Whatever you do, don’t be afraid of being honest. I mean you
need to be strong for your spouse…he’s got a lot to deal with too and worrying
about whether or not you can hack it is not helpful to him especially if it’s
all the time. Everyone is different so only you and your hubby can find ways to
deal with the deployment and what you can or can’t talk about it. But if your
hubby can’t deal with it then find someone that you can talk to. Cause you can’t
bottle it all up, you've got to find a way to let go.
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